Why should we care about Adoption
A parent is ready for adoption once it starts looking at adoption from the child’s perspective, beyond their own need, biases or myths. The parent has to be comfortable with the idea of adoption, engage their kith & kin, believe in telling the child about adoption and to position adoption as a happy event to the child. This requires setting aside the notions developed through hearsay or casual conversations, some of those include:
Adoption is for childless couples only – Adoption needs to be viewed beyond the parent’s need. There are several parents who are adopting children in addition of or even without requiring to have their biological kids. Adopting a child does not mean that you should not or cannot have your biological children.
Older children do not bond well – 80% of the parents registered for adoption in India opt for an infant or youngest possible child owing to this misconception. Older children are more responsible, have a more stable health and bond better with age appropriate parents.
Child should be matched with the parent – Nothing could be more racial, discriminatory and illogical than the ill-conceived concept of matching a child with the parent. Unfortunately, even the government regulations provide for and use the term “matching-of-a-child”. A child will develop its own personality and it is naïve to seek comfort in similar looks of the child. This also leads to debate upon adopting a child from local agencies so that the child matches the appearance of the parents. Several parents ad months to their wait in adoption opting for nearby regions to adopt from, even as there may be no children available for adoption in certain areas.
Don’t tell the child about adoption – A child has to be told about its adoption because it is very much part of their identity, resolves several situations that may arise out of medical necessity and reflects upon the parents comfort and commitment in the first place. It is important to tell the child about adoption , first of all, and in a positive context, even before you tell the child that it was adopted.
Children should not be placed with single parents – The marital status of parent is irrelevant. There are millions of “couples” who would but not be simply interested in adoption. In view, we - as community, have to enable each parent, single or married, young or old, Hindu or non-Hindu desirous of adopting a child, to support the child in al possible manner. Read through our BLOG section for getting a fresh perspective on commonly held, but avoidable, perceptions n adoption. Whether it is the latest policy decision from CARA, grievance of a parent, a court judgement or a news from a remote corner of the country, you will find in FoJ a platform to reflect the public sentiment and commentary from our experts.